In Colorado, a first grader
named D’ Avonte Meadows was suspended for three days.Why? Sexual harassment, because he sang the
LMFAO song “I’m Sexy And I know It” to a little girl while standing in the
school lunch line.
mother believes the suspension has nothing
to do with sexual harassment. She believes the punishment is unfair, just
as she believes it was unfair for D’Avonte to be suspended over doing a “booty
shake” in front of the same little girl’s face.
Stephanie Meadows says, “I could understand if he was fondling her, looking up
her skirt, trying to look in her shirt. That, to me, is sexual harassment."
She also adds, "I'm
just, I'm floored. They're going to look at him like he's a pervert. And it's
like, that’s not fair to him."
When I was in elementary
school, I am pretty sure this type of behavior would have been corrected, but I
am almost certain it would not have been grounds for suspension.It seems that as time goes on, schools are
really cracking down, and children as young as six are learning hard lessons
about what is and isn’t appropriate.
When I think of suspension,
song lyrics do not pop into my mind -- even if I imagine myself the parent of
the little girl D’Avonte “serenaded”. I understand the need for discipline, but
I also think children are ... well ... they’re
children. They’re kids. Is there any other way to teach them about
inappropriate and appropriate without suspension?
Maybe there is a reason why
I am not a teacher. Are my ideals a bit lenient? Or is suspension over song
lyrics, “booty shaking" or the other countless reasons for sending first
graders home reasonable punishment?
What do you think of this
story? What do you think of similar stories? Is cracking down a good thing, or
is it getting out of hand?
Why I recommend it: Body image. I've been there done that -- and even as an adult it's hard to be
"okay" with yourself. So I cannot imagine what teenage girls are feeling today,
with the media's narrow minded ideas of beauty.
Prison is meant for punishment, but somehow I don't think this is what
judges have in mind.
Officials from the U.S. Department of Justice are investigating a complaint
filed that alleges Tutwiler Prison for Women has had numerous sexual assaults
and rapes from 2004-2011.
Inmates who complained to the warden were punished for doing so.
Meanwhile, the guards routinely took advantage of their power over the inmates,
including going into the shower room. Several of the women became pregnant, but
thus far only one guard has been punished. He fathered a baby with an inmate
and served six months in jail for rape. The usual sentence for the crime is 50
On one hand, I'm sure many people will say these women committed a crime so
they have no rights left to protect. On the other hand, however, this is gross
misconduct and abuse of power. These events seem more like something that would
happen in 1962 not 2012. Apparently we still live in a society where men can
take advantage of women and we turn a blind eye and look the other way.
And why did no one care before this? Because these women are criminals.
They also are no doubt poor and from disadvantaged groups. In essence, they are
the people in society no one cares about.
What do you think? Should prison guards be able to do whatever they
The following post was written by a guest blogger. It's views do not
necessarily reflect the views of P.O.V.
By Megan Broutain
I am all about empowering parents to make their own
choices and I am all for women not judging other women on their mothering
abilities or limitations. I am a firm believer in democracy and the power of an
engaged citizenry. I am a card carrying member of the freedom of speech and
would fight for anyone’s right to spew insanities, if they so wish. Because I
am not perfect, as a parent or as a woman, because the alternative is not
acceptable and because I can easily stop listening or change the channel on my
I can see the grey area in any argument, provided it
is reasonably posited and backed with supporting facts. I may lean for or
against a piece of argument, based on my own personal preference and past
experience, but I don’t know everything so I’m generally open to hearing your
But, there are some things -- in parenting, politics
and life in general -- that are simply common sense. Touting counter-logic as
an alternative lifestyle choice will simply not fly.
Allow me to demonstrate:
·If you teach your children that hitting
is bad, then turn around and use spanking to discipline them, don’t be
surprised that your non-violent stand is not sticking. Children learn
vicariously through the adults who influence them. It’s do as I do, not do as I
·If you want to extol the virtues of extended
breastfeeding because it is a private choice, then don’t pose for the cover of
a magazine with your boob in your three to four year-old’s mouth. It’s
incongruent at best. You can have private or you can have public, you can’t
have both; I’m afraid they are mutually exclusive.
·By the same token, if you want to sell
magazines for their content, don’t put a questionable photo on its cover and
flank it with a confrontational question then wonder why no one is taking your
·If you are discontent with the
divisiveness of the political discourse around you, starting a sentence with
“you people” will not really demonstrate the opposite, will it?
·If you run for political office, your
political voting record and your past political positions are part of your platform, whether you like it or not. You cannot
pick and choose which ones you can list on your current resumé.
·And by the same token, if you promise
something, publically, and garner support for and because of it, don’t be
surprised when you are expected to deliver on that promise. Sticking your head
in the sand and playing ostrich will not get you off the hook.
So there you have it, folks: Cognitive dissonance --
be it in parenting, politics or life in general -- is not persuasive. Period.
I have been thinking a
lot lately about goals, dreams, and reality.As your hobby becomes your passion, your passion becomes your dream, and
your dream becomes your goal, where do you place reality?
I am a firm believer in
having confidence, (even if I do not always have it), being humble and chasing
your dreams. But I have also always wondered when it is healthy to go after
something “more attainable” and let go of the “dream”.
Here is a short article
that prompted me to give this topic even more thought:
“Three studies examined
associations between goal disengagement and goal reengagement tendencies and
indicators of physical health (e.g., health problems, cortisol rhythms, sleep
efficiency). Based on research showing that goal adjustment tendencies are
associated with subjective well-being, the authors predicted that people who
are better able to disengage from unattainable goals and reengage with
alternative goals also may experience better physical health. Across the three
studies, the findings demonstrate that the ability to disengage from
unattainable goals is associated with better self-reported health and more
normative patterns of diurnal cortisol secretion. Goal reengagement, by
contrast, was unrelated to indicators of physical health but buffered some of
the adverse effects of difficulty with goal disengagement. The results also
indicate that subjective well-being can mediate the associations between goal
disengagement tendencies and physical health.”
This is great
information, but how do we know it is time to disengage, when society says never give up on your dream? Of course
this article is not telling us to make major adjustments on our dreams...but
how much is too much?
When you are so driven
and passionate that you push yourself endlessly, laugh in the face of adversity
and remove the word “quit” from your vocabulary, articles like these can be a
bit confusing.Adjusting our goals may be
“better” for our health? What do you think?
Feel free to comment,
and share your personal journey:
What do you want out of
life? Have you settled? Do you still secretly dream? Or do you find it silly to
dream? What in your opinion, is the difference between quitting and being
realistic? In your opinion, what is the difference between far-fetched and
chasing your dream until you reach that goal?
Why I recommend it: This is a page off of my blog, End Bullying:Listen, Act,
and Tell...Save Lives. This
page is dedicated to those who are being discriminated against or bullied or
have been in the past. Please help those who have been bullied by taking time to view their stories.
We hear much about drug and alcohol addictions. But there are countless
more addictions and most get little or no press. One of these addictions is
Caffeine is the world's most common drug. In 2011, it was recommended for
inclusion in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders so that
its withdrawal symptoms would be universally recognized and treated.
The inclusion was proposed by Professor Roland Griffiths of the Johns
Hopkins School of Medicine.
According to Griffiths the signs of withdrawal include, "headache; lethargy
and drowsiness; depressed mood; anxiety; nausea; vomiting; muscle pain and
stiffness and inability to concentrate". For those with a severe addiction,
symptoms can also include, "nervousness, anxiety, restlessness, insomnia,
stomach problems, tremors, rapid heartbeat, restlessness and pacing."
People believe that because caffeine is legal that that means it is safe.
The truth is no stimulant is completely safe regardless of its legality. When
you put these substances into your body, you're altering how your body behaves
With state by state passing new laws allowing
same-sex marriages, it looked as if this taboo issue would finally be accepted nationwide.Protests and rallies from people not accepting
of the issue caused withdraws of these new laws, which resulted in newlyweds’
marriages suddenly being no longer recognized.
It seems even living in a “free country,” we are still limited on what is
accepted -- either in terms of what our government has decided or what is
socially acceptable by our peers.
For a religious organization to step up and fight against same-sex marriage is
in my eyes what crosses the line of “separation of church and state.”For them to say marriage can only be between
a man and a woman because that is how it is seen in a church point-of-view
isn’t exactly following that. Who are the heterosexuals to say that same-sex
couples are wrong, when clearly they do not have an open mind that sometimes
you can’t help who you love, or that a gay person is not exactly choosing they
like the same sex, but it’s just how they we’re born.
A same-sex marriage would not affect “traditional
marriage” in any way, so why not allow them the experience of marriage,
too?Who do they think they are to deny
them committing a devotion of their love because of their sexual preference?
I hate to see the struggles that the gay, lesbian,
and bi-sexual community has to deal with on a daily basis.From getting denied a job, entry to a church,
to randomly being attacked because of a same-sex attraction, it seems that
“being different” will only be tolerated up to a certain point.
I fully support gay marriage because the fact they
too are humans and deserve every right and opinion that a straight person gets
with no questions asked.From a very
young age, I thought they should never be singled out.
Have you ever thought to yourself why a strong view
against gay marriage is any right to refuse people the happiness of legally committing
to the love of their lives?
am honestly quite scared with all of the recent abductions that have been
flooding the headlines lately. Times have changed. Do you remember when your
parents or grandparents said to you, “When I was younger”?Well here goes, when I was younger, I enjoyed
freely riding around my local neighborhood at the age of 11, meeting kids at
school and playing outside all day in the summer with no parental supervision.
Today, I wouldn't dream of allowing my children to do this. If my daughter or
son set foot outside, I am with them. At times they want to walk the dog; I
allow them to, however, they are only allowed to walk up approximately six
houses and not without adult supervision. I feel, nowadays, you just don't know
who to trust.
recent abduction comes to mind. My thoughts are well warranted, just think of
the recent kidnapping of the mother and her three daughters in Tennessee. They
were kidnapped by a family friend and ex-brother-in-law, Adam Mayes, who was
helping the family move. Closely following the story, Mrs. Bain and her three
daughters vanished along with Mayes overnight. Mr. Bain woke up to find his
family missing. Tragically, the eldest daughter and Mrs. Bain were found dead
on Mayes property in Mississippi. The FBI quickly became involved in the case
and a large manhunt began in search of the remaining Bain sisters. Eventually
Mayes made the FBI's top ten most wanted list and was found in the woods with
the two Bain sisters who were alive. As the agents approached Mayes killed
scary as it may seem, be proactive and teach your children about strangers and,
furthermore, about speaking out when they feel uncomfortable about something.
Years ago, parents did not speak out about these topics. It was just a
different time.What you teach them now
will make them more aware of their surroundings and allow them to be prepared
on what to do if they come across a situation. Some things that you can do are:
Take them to a child's self-defense course. Many martial arts schools hold
seminars about stranger danger geared specifically toward children. It is a
serious issue and very important for them to learn.
Any time that you go to a large public place such as a museum, amusement park,
etc. chose a family meeting place in case someone gets lost.
Teach them how to react and speak out if someone makes them feel uncomfortable.
Discuss stories and headlines of child abductions with them. The purpose of
this is not to scare them but is done so that they are aware of what is going
on in today's world.
According to the old
African proverb, it takes a village to raise a child. The family, the teachers,
the community --- the "village". What exactly does this mean?
Explanation from afriprov.org:
“This Igbo and Yoruba
(Nigeria) proverb exists in different forms in many African languages. The
basic meaning is that child upbringing is a communal effort. The responsibility
for raising a child is shared with the larger family (sometimes called the extended
family). Everyone in the family participates especially the older children,
aunts and uncles, grandparents and even cousins. It is not unusual for African
children to stay for long periods with their grandparents or aunts or uncles.
Even the wider community gets involved such as neighbors and friends. Children
are considered a blessing from God for the whole community. This communal
responsibility in raising children is also seen in the Sukuma (Tanzania)
proverb "One knee does not bring up a child" and in the Swahili (East
and Central Africa) proverb "One hand does not nurse a child."
“In general this Nigerian
proverb conveys the African worldview that emphasizes the values of family
relationships, parental care, self-sacrificing concern for others, sharing, and
even hospitality. This is very close to the Biblical worldview as seen in
scripture texts related to unity and cooperation (Ecclesiastes 4:9,12) and a
mother's self-sacrificing love (Isaiah 49:15-16).
“The multiple uses of this
Nigerian proverb show the timeliness and relevancy of African proverbs in
today's world. In 1996 Hillary Clinton, the wife of the President of the United
States, published a book on children and family values entitled "It Takes
a Village" based on this proverb. That same year Maryknoll Father Don
Sybertz and I published the first edition of our book "Towards An African
Narrative Theology" (now available from Paulines Publications Africa,
Nairobi, Kenya and Orbis Books, Maryknoll, New York, USA). In Chapter Three on ‘Community'’
we used this Nigerian proverb and many other African proverbs and sayings on
the values of community, unity, cooperation and sharing. In Dallas, Texas there
was a controversy over four security guards that whipped some kids who broke into
a mall. The parents of the kids said that the guards had no right to discipline
their kids, but the guards said that they did what they did because ‘the
village raises the children.’
“The Anglican Archbishop
John Sentamu of York, England at a consultation in Swanwick, England in
September, 2005 stated: "As It takes
a whole village to raise a child so it takes the whole global village to eradicate poverty. It starts with each
of us personally.”
When I read this, my
only thought was wow. My husband is
in the military, and we have never had the opportunity to be right around the
corner from family. We rarely felt as though we were surrounded by people who
deeply cared for us and loved our children.
After reading about how
children are blessings to be shared, I could not agree more. And I am quite sad
to think of how much my children and our family have missed. I read another
great article about parenting from phdinparenting.com, and wanted to share a
piece of what I found:
"Share the responsibility...
That said, I also don't
think the entire burden of raising my children needs to fall on my shoulders or
my husband's shoulders. In our case, we have been very lucky to be able to have
my mother as a regular and trusted presence in our children's lives since the
time they were born. We live out in the country and until recently didn't
realize that we had other people nearby with children. I think if we had lived
in the city, closer to friends, we would have tried to forge a closer and more
consistent relationship between our children and our friends, to create
opportunities for trade-offs (I'll watch your kids today if you watch mine
tomorrow). I think it is important for parents to have help and to have breaks.
Just as it is important to create a strong attachment with your child, I think
it is important to your own mental health as a parent to encourage a strong
attachment between your child and at least a handful of other trusted
So what do children need? And what about parents
and guardians? The more I ponder a child's need to be enveloped in love,I think of how important it is for adults to
keep a healthybalance. Caring for a
child is one of the most rewarding things a person can do -- it is also one of
the most exhausting things we will ever do. How do you create a healthy balance
if everything falls on your shoulders, and you have no one to consistently lean
on? Do you have a warm network of people who want the best for you, and for
your children? Do you think children who are raised by one or two parents with
little to no input or help are missing out?
What comes to your mind when you hear the beautiful
African Proverb, “It takes a village to raise a child."?
In the words of the rock band REM, "It's the end of the world as we know it
and I feel fine." If you're the owner of Silohome, you feel fine, too.
Silohome is cashing in, literally, on the "world is going to end in
December 2012" craze. And they are not the only one. In recent weeks, several
news articles and television programs have focused on these doomsayers and the
profits they are making off the assumption the world will be destroyed later
Silohome and its equivalent companies are not for the average person. The
property is advertised as "survival shelters/missile base luxury real estate" and many if its selling points are its
private runway and the ability to purchase all the adjacent properties for
maximum privacy. These homes include an above ground house and a blast shelter
home underground, which according to the website, is capable of sustaining a
direct nuclear blast.
The properties cost $1,760,000 each and cash offers only will be
Let's imagine for a moment the world is actually going to end in December.
Evidently, only the rich are worthy of saving from imminent doom. They will
live on in their posh bomb shelters while the rest of us poor, working slobs
perish. Hum, maybe some of the wealthy will bring their servants along. After
all, who wants to do their own laundry after Armageddon?
But all this raises another question. If the world is going to end,
doesn't that mean it will end? There won't be any world left which would make
hiding out in a bomb shelter pointless. The shelter wouldn't save anyone from
destruction because it too would be destroyed.
It's all just a clever plan for Silohome and similar companies to make a
profit off of paranoia and gullible people.
Are there any words that
stump you every time you try to spell them? Do these words leave you pulling
out your dictionary or pulling up Google search? Although I am by no means a
polished, or seasoned writer, for some reason I really enjoy looking over lists
of common grammatical errors or common misspellings ... or is it mispellings?
I searched and came up
with several common misspelled words in English and thought some of us may get
a kick out of taking a few moments to test ourselves.
Here is the quiz! Have
fun!The answers are at the bottom.
Why I recommend it: This message on the homepage says it all, "Sirdeaner Walker, whose 11-year-old son died by suicide after experiencing bullying in school, has dedicated her life to ending bullying of all kinds, including bullying based on race, religion, disability, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or anything else that makes people different. "
Last week marked the 20th anniversary of the Los Angeles riots which
followed the beating of Rodney King. There was much in the media commemorating
the anniversary and filling us in on where the parties involved in the case are
The strangest story of all might be that of Juror #5 in Rodney King's civil
trial. She's now engaged to marry King. She says the two met briefly after the
trial and then dated on-and-off for four years before breaking up. It was 15
years before they saw each other again and now they plan on getting
I'm not quite sure what to think about this one. On one hand, love works
in mysterious ways and doesn't always make sense. On the other hand, it somehow
seems unethical to date one of your jurors, even if the case is long over.
What do you think about a defendant dating a juror?
What are your memories of the Rodney King beating and the Los Angeles
The following post was written by a guest blogger. It's views do not
necessarily reflect the views of P.O.V.
By Jessica Snow
coupons is the new way of life when it comes to managing your expenses.With little effort, you can save money on anything
ranging from groceries to vehicle maintenance.So why wouldn’t you want to sit down and pull out your new money saving
weapon, a pair of scissors?
in 2012 could not be any easier with the help of the Internet.From printable coupons to forum boards
guiding new couponer’s along the way, it’s almost crazy not to use the “free
money” that can make or break a budget.
tracking the use of distributed coupons, we know usage has steadily been on the
rise since 2008.With an increase of $500
million from the previous year, coupon cutters saved an amazing $4.6 billion in
2011. With the economy’s roller coaster ride of ups and downs, everybody is
jumping on this train to lessen the strain on their wallets.With this pattern, the amount saved in 2012
will surly exceed last year.
no longer uncommon to use coupons either.From segments on the news to TV shows such as TLC’s Extreme Couponing, it’s glorified like never before.The couponers featured on the show don’t just
use the coupons, but by doing a little homework, found a way to make the
coupons do the work them.Most of these
couponers have turned to coupons after a change in household income or a job
loss or they already had a tight budget effected by rising prices.
steps are the best way to start using coupons.Start small and as you move forward you will learn new tips and tricks.
couponing equals an instant gratification of more than just seeing money in
your wallet My first coupon was for $5
off of formula which was a huge savings to me, but as I investigated different
ways to use coupons, I found the store would pay me to buy items.Coupons in hand, I purchased six Cover Girl
blushes for a total of $1.46.Overages
and completely free items, why hadn’t I done this years ago?
pick up those scissors and clip away.Start saving money the easy way.Coupons are a new currency and with simple logic behind how to use them
to their full potential, you will challenge yourself each time you shop to save
more than you did previously.
Jessica Snow is a married, mother to a
3-year-old (almost 4) little boy.Writing
has always been a strong passion of hers.She started journaling at a young age and this has continued into adulthood.
This has evolved into lyrical writing,
poetry, and hopefully a steady career as a freelance writer. Snow plans to write novella in the upcoming
months.When her notebook isn’t in her
hand, Snow can be found playing guitar, doing research, doing crafts or spending time with family.
It seems that nearly
everyone I speak with would love more rest, less tossing and turning, to sleep
through the night rather than wake up every hour or so. Sleep is so very
important and so very underrated.
"When we experience
long-term exhaustion, disappointment in our productivity, illness, weight gain
and general feelings of depression and dissatisfaction with life," he
says, "few of us stop to consider the one thing that can alleviate, if not
prevent, all that: sleep."
In the article, I
noticed a number of things that you may find helpful. Take a look at the
following tips.Do you have any tips
that work for you? Please feel free to
1. Rise. Shine. Repeat. Waking up at the same
time every day sets your body on the right sleeping schedule regardless of the
time you went to bed.
2. Let the Sun Shine In. Whether it's
through the window or on your way to work, getting direct sun for 15 minutes
every day helps your body reset its internal clock.
3. Have a Nap-a-Latte. If you need a
midday pick-me-up, drink one cup of cool-drip coffee followed by a 20-minute
nap before 2 p.m. The caffeine kicks in by the time the nap ends.
4. Schedule Coffee, Cocktails and Cardio. Eliminate caffeine after 2 p.m.
Resist alcohol three hours before bedtime and stop exercising four hours before
5. Make Your Bed. Clean Your Room. People sleep better in a made bed and a tidy
bedroom. Change your sheets at least once a week. Invest time and money in a
pillow and mattress that is comfortable for you.
6. "Turn Off" 60 Minutes Before Bed.Dr. Breus calls this the "Power Down Hour." No email, no video
games, no work, no bills
-- nothing stimulating or anxiety-provoking. Think 20 minutes for hygiene, 20
minutes for meditation, 20 minutes for relaxation.
7....Or Tune In. As counterintuitive as
this sounds, it's okay to watch television in bed. Some people need it to turn
their brain off. Try a half-hour sitcom. Avoid the news, action movies or
stimulating reality shows.
8. To Read or To Be Read To. Try reading fiction, especially familiar stories,
or have your partner read to you. Listening to an audio book works, too.
9. Warning: Over-the-Counter Medication. If you take over-the-counter
"PM" medication more than 10 nights per month, Dr. Breus suggests talking
to your doctor. Their effects can last for 12 hours and leave you feeling
groggy. Also, they contain ingredients that may be harmful if taken regularly.
10. Melatonin: Natural Doesn't Mean Safe. Melatonin is a hormone that regulates
sleep, and can be safe and effective when used properly, however most take too
high of a dose. Before taking melatonin, discuss with your doctor.