By Rhonda Ramsey,
P.O.V. Contributing Writer
I have been thinking a lot lately about goals, dreams, and reality. As your hobby becomes your passion, your passion becomes your dream, and your dream becomes your goal, where do you place reality?
I am a firm believer in having confidence, (even if I do not always have it), being humble and chasing your dreams. But I have also always wondered when it is healthy to go after something “more attainable” and let go of the “dream”.
Here is a short article that prompted me to give this topic even more thought:
“Three studies examined associations between goal disengagement and goal reengagement tendencies and indicators of physical health (e.g., health problems, cortisol rhythms, sleep efficiency). Based on research showing that goal adjustment tendencies are associated with subjective well-being, the authors predicted that people who are better able to disengage from unattainable goals and reengage with alternative goals also may experience better physical health. Across the three studies, the findings demonstrate that the ability to disengage from unattainable goals is associated with better self-reported health and more normative patterns of diurnal cortisol secretion. Goal reengagement, by contrast, was unrelated to indicators of physical health but buffered some of the adverse effects of difficulty with goal disengagement. The results also indicate that subjective well-being can mediate the associations between goal disengagement tendencies and physical health.”
This is great information, but how do we know it is time to disengage, when society says never give up on your dream? Of course this article is not telling us to make major adjustments on our dreams...but how much is too much?
When you are so driven and passionate that you push yourself endlessly, laugh in the face of adversity and remove the word “quit” from your vocabulary, articles like these can be a bit confusing. Adjusting our goals may be “better” for our health? What do you think?
Feel free to comment, and share your personal journey:
What do you want out of life? Have you settled? Do you still secretly dream? Or do you find it silly to dream? What in your opinion, is the difference between quitting and being realistic? In your opinion, what is the difference between far-fetched and chasing your dream until you reach that goal?